My second article that I read over is “The roles that parents play in the lives of their young adult children.” This article discusses the relationships between parents and their children. It brings up the topic of adult children living with their parents, and how that effects the children. Most of the children that are living at home as adults feel “confused on their role in the household.” These children also felt as if their parents still have the control over them and their decisions. They feel as if they “don’t have a voice” against their parents. When adults come back home to live with their parents, they develop a new relationship between them and their parents. Now the question arises of how the parents should treat their children. Should they support them financially and emotionally? Or since they’re now adults should it be their own problem? This causes much stress in the relationship and may potentially ruin it. This doesn’t exactly cover the issue of the hovering parent, but may actually be one of the causes of it. If a child won’t leave home, is the parent forced to take care of them? There are many different views on what a parent should actually provide for their children, especially when the child is an adult. It’s a whole different situation from when the child is young and when the child is an adult.
Vassallo, Suzanne, Diana Smart, and Rhys Price-Robertson. "The roles that parents play in the lives of their young adult children." Family Matters 82 (2009): 8-14. Academic Search Complete. EBSCO. Web. 9 Oct. 2010.
A lot of children go back to live with their parents after they graduate from college these days. It's usually because it is so hard to financially support oneself in this tough economy, but at the same time there is also the benefit of saving money from a new job in order to pay for a nice home. I can definitely understand the difficulty in the roles parents and children play if the kids go back home; the child is an adult, yet they still have to respect the rules their parents set for them since it is their home they are offering to their child. It's definitely difficult to say what exactly is the best system for this situation.
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